But this response is unacceptable in the face of the severe and incalculable damage that lust inflicts upon lives, families, and fellowships. If we want to overcome lust, we need to recognize what we are dealing with. A good place to start is to understand the "sexual buzz"—the electric feeling of pleasure that makes sex so enjoyable.
The psychobiologic sexual buzz involves our emotions, our bodies, and our cognitive functions. God designed these feelings for good. The sexual buzz occupies an essential role as an early phase of intimacy within the sexual union of marriage. Without it, we would not become aroused and sex probably would not happen enough to keep reproduction going or marital ties binding.
The sexual buzz is only appropriate inside the marriage relationship. When we misuse this capacity—allowing ourselves an illicit sexual buzz—it is sinful lust. Consider the following definition as a way to understand this:. This is, admittedly, a rather complicated definition.
Openly communicate your desires with partners and potential partners to avoid miscommunications or incompatibility.
When initiating the conversation about lust with a partner, prioritize honesty and transparency about your feelings. A conversation is critical if you feel lust toward a person outside of your relationship because it will allow you to address underlying reasons or whether your partner would be comfortable with you acting on that attraction.
In an effort to reduce the likelihood of conflict or infidelity, Zajac recommends not just asking your partner if you can engage in a sexual relationship with someone else, but instead, let them know that you're experiencing attraction toward another person.
Once again, honesty is key here. If you want to act on your lustful feelings with your partner or potential partner, it's entirely possible to accomplish that without causing issues. Here are some ways in which you can express lust in a healthy way to your partner or potential partner:. Although lust is a natural emotion most people eventually experience, it's important to be careful of how you act on it.
If lust is not expressed healthily or respectfully, instances of discomfort, abuse, or other issues may arise. Follow these tips to stay mindful of how and when not to express lust toward someone:. Depending on the situation, there can be small to severe consequences after acting on lust. To avoid unwanted and undesirable results, you will want to go slower in your sexual and romantic relationships.
Journaling and self-reflection can also help you understand your emotions and whether or not you are actively experiencing lust or something else. Lust is a common, natural biological reaction that can offer many benefits. Whether you're single or in a committed partnership, acting on lust in a healthy way can transform your relationship depending on how you navigate it. If you still find yourself wanting to act on your feelings of lust when the opportunity may end up being destructive or might cause harm, consider seeking the help of a relationship therapist or psychologist.
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Explore Classes. Psychologists By Simone Humphrey, Psy. Simone Humphrey, Psy. Last updated on February 21, Lust vs. How to tell if it's love or lust. Why are you interested in the relationship?
Are you open to the hard work? How do you feel about the person's flaws? Does the relationship get better over time? Where is the thrill coming from? How secure do you feel in the relationship? Do you feel "obsessed"?
Is there longevity? Lust dissipates over time. Love persists. Stages of romantic love. You feel intensely driven to tear the other person's clothes off.
You desire sexual gratification from this person. You can't think straight because you're fixated on your partner. You want to be close to your partner all the time. Your friends are asking where you've been. You're not sleeping well. You're rarely hungry. You get butterflies in your stomach when you're near your partner. You feel a sense of calm and contentment.
You hold your partner in mind but not all the time. You're focused on developing and growing with your partner. You easily make eye contact with them. You're able to openly express your needs and anxieties.
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