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IE 11 is not supported. For an optimal experience visit our site on another browser. Share this —. Follow better. By Sarah DiGiulio. Are You the Office Jerk? It comes from being raised in a household where rudeness—especially from a kid—was not only unacceptable, it was dangerous. Even when I brought friends home from college, they joked about my family being the most please and thank you-ing bunch they ever met.
So coming from that immersion in super politeness, it could be just me. But I wonder if my fellow Clutchettes have noticed that manners have taken a massive, long-term sabbatical while bad behavior—like the following examples compiled with the help of my Facebook family—kicks all hell loose on the streets? Not covering coughs and sneezes. How hard is it to raise your hand or crook of your arm to keep personal germs… personal? Somebody launching a spray of nasty, funky snot and spit into the air from their uncovered nose or mouth is setting themselves up to get cursed out after they send everyone around them running for the nearest bottles of Lysol and hand sanitizer.
Loud cell conversations. A personal conversation need not ever become public knowledge but for some reason, folks get real caught up in conversations that put their business on blast. Standing too close at the cash register. Letting it all hang out. While you might think you're being helpful by telling your friend or significant other that you've "been through the exact same thing," doing so can come off as rather dismissive.
As much as someone may appreciate hearing that they're not alone in their troubles, that kindness is outweighed by the sense that you're being self-involved. Saying what's on your mind can sometimes be helpful, notes Heidi McBain , a licensed marriage and family therapist in Flower Mound, Texas. But it's important to know when it isn't the time or the place to do so.
To be safe, it's best to only offer your opinion when you're asked for it. Otherwise, you run the risk of being unkind by chiming in despite "the non-verbals from those around you that what's being said is hurtful," McBain says. Even if what you're looking at doesn't actually merit strong disapproval, your face may be accidentally saying otherwise.
Her suggestion? When you catch your reflection and notice you're making a not-so-pleasant face or if someone mentions it to you put on a smile—after a while, it'll be like second nature.
For many people, accepting compliments can be a challenge. Whether it's due to modesty, a lack of self-esteem , or simply the feeling that the praise isn't deserved, hearing nice things about ourselves from members of our inner circle can be difficult. But rejecting a compliment outright not only perpetuates those insecurities, it also comes across as rude. That doesn't mean every compliment merits a grateful response, though—if it's inappropriate or a stranger's yelling it at you on the street, you're under no obligation to express gratitude for it.
Most people have a skill they truly excel at, whether they're a coding genius or they make a mean German chocolate cake. However, having expertise doesn't give anyone license to make others feel bad about their lack of knowledge in a specific subject. Instead of scoffing at their questions, try taking a second to think about how you'd want them to respond should the two of you switch places. It's called the golden rule for a reason. Few people relish being stuck in traffic.
I've seen that a lot its quite disturbing and it scares people myself included. I think people are rude no matter what and this proves it. I think we have a big problem in this country and we need to do something. Maybe start kicking people out of stores, taking away drivers license and sending them to jail because I've had enough of constant rude behavior, it needs to stop. Come on let's grow up a lot and start acting human. Have people forgot about the golden rule? Do unto others as they would do unto you.
I definitely agree that we have forgot about the golden rule. Rude is rude, and you nailed it. This whole post is so petty and trivial. There are actually bad things that happen that are much more worthy of your complaints and fretting upon than when people are unintentionally rude.
Get a life, cunt. Add Your Comment. Number 10 really irks me. If a child has ADHD or quite a few other disorders, you either need to drug them, which is the acceptable way today to deal with it, or use the old fashion approach and hit them when they are out of control.
What about the person who can't stand a peep out of children yet sits in the back row at church so that there is no way to avoid them accept not be at church. I had a neighbor that would walk his dog to my yard, daily, and allow him to poop on the edge of my groomed lawn.. He didn't come back after that.. You touched on tailgating; however, unless I missed but you left out one of the main causes of tailgating which is when one hogs the fast passing lane and does not have the curtesy to move.
This is not only annoying, it is illegal as well. I am sure we've all been guilty of rudeness from time to time. The worse that I find on the rise is littering. When I was a kid, there was a huge move to clean up America. I think we need to push this again. The amount of trash that I see along the streets and on sidewalks sometimes astounds me.
I'm back to review this post once again. I know a few people who need to read this so I'm passing it along. I wish there had been one additional rude behavior on the list: people who pretend, deny or deliberately ignore the fact that they are sick in order to attend events and gatherings with little or no regard for those they expose to germs and illness.
Those who routinely do this really illustrate your point that rude people really just do not care about others! My sister wears her choice to always soldier on in the face of illness like a badge of honor others should admire her for and so far has taken no responsibility when confronted.
Her shallow "sorry you're sick" texts are a far cry from "I am sorry I did not stay home when I had a terrible cold and now you are sick too. You forgot to mention the customer who gets to the register, and never acknowledges the cashier, because they are talking on their cell phone.
It is one of my pet pieves, as a cashier at Costco. Also talking loud on you cell, so that everyone can hear! Take it out to the car, and close your windows! No one wants to know your business! I don't think I've ever done any of those things, I instinctively try to be polite, sometimes apologetic even.
The one thing that I am "guilty" of is in regards of my child, who doesn't always behave properly. He's autistic, though, so I think that might be a factor, because often he can't distinguish between right and wrong, and the things "we don't do", like keeping his voice down and not making a fuss. I do apologize for his behalf however, most of the time people end up telling me "let him be, he's just a kid", which vexxes me greatly, because it's no excuse for rude behaviour Not saying I'm miss prim and proper, I simply try to be mindful of others, because most of those things peeve me something awful, so I try not doing them.
Anyway, sorry for the text block, lol! Good read! You must work retail because what you have written is beyond true. The things that happen in bathrooms makes you wonder if anyone is civilized. The horrible drivers problem tops my list. If I was a cop I could not give out enough tickets. I can total my car about 4 times a day just getting to work. Sometimes I speed up and slam on the brakes and fake a heart attack to see if I can get a reaction out of them. Its like damn you just almost killed your whole family but what about me.
Its so important to drive like an idiot to save one second to lose at the next stop light. Electronic devices have just compartmentalized people to act like they are not a part of society anymore. Its like its their own little world as they walk around like robots. Men walking around on cell phones talking makes you walk like a girl.
Strangely enough if its a business call you walk normal weird, and that is how you know if your employees are goofing off. I can beat this stuff up all day and eating with your mouth open is fashionable, just like moving back into a cave. The aisle block thing really gets under my skin! I'm trying to grab things from an aisle and it's like a traffic jam. And I get interrupted a LOT. That's a pretty comprehensive list. Instead of trying to force my neighbors to use the dog run across the street as opposed to our yard, we have decided to move!
How about when someone is rude to you, being rude back to them. What does that accomplish? Number 17 should be a lot higher on the list. Mostly because it is dangerous! Recently I was being followed so closely,that I could not even see their headlights in my rear view. Finally,I stopped and went to the car and told the driver,"If you want to ride with me,get in the back seat. Otherwise get out of my trunk. But you do not have the right to risk mine. I like what you guys are up too.
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I soooo have to agree with you Ralph. This week I had to drive the clunker to work while my car is being worked on. I discovered that if you drive an older beater car, people in expensive cars exhibit the most horrible behavior. These drivers follow too close, honk, and cut me off while I am in the old car. That is such a valid point!
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